In the midst of life’s constant movement, sometimes the smallest actions can reveal the deepest truths. Today, I’m sharing some thoughts about letting go – a journey that’s been teaching me unexpected lessons about control, connection, and trust. Whether you’re in your own process of letting go or simply curious about what that might mean, I hope these reflections offer a moment of recognition or comfort.
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This morning, while driving my son to his playgroup, I did something that feels almost rebellious in our digital age: I asked Siri to call a friend. No warning text, no checking if they were available – just a spontaneous reaching out. In 2024, making an unplanned call feels like a small act of courage. But there’s something beautiful in this tiny rebellion, something that speaks to a deeper journey I’ve been on lately – learning to let go.
You see, I’ve been thinking a lot about what it means to truly let go. Not in the sense of abandoning responsibilities or throwing caution to the wind, but in creating space. Space between our expectations and reality, between who we’ve been and who we’re becoming. It’s fascinating how something as simple as an unplanned phone call can illuminate so much about our relationship with control.
Sometimes, the most precious moments are the ones we couldn’t have planned if we tried.
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In our modern world, we’ve become masters of orchestration. Every email can be scheduled, every social media post optimized, and every interaction planned down to the minute. We edit and perfect our messages, curate our online presence, and expect constant availability. It’s as if we’re all conducting a symphony of perfect control – except life isn’t meant to be a perfectly conducted symphony, is it?
The irony doesn’t escape me – how our attempts to control everything often leave us feeling more disconnected, more anxious, less present. We’re so busy planning the perfect moment that we miss the beautiful imperfection of now. I see this especially clearly since becoming a mother. There’s nothing like parenthood to show you just how little control you actually have and, perhaps more importantly, how much beauty there is in surrendering to that truth.
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That’s where my morning calls come in. They’ve become an unexpected teacher in this journey of letting go. When I press that call button without any preamble, without ensuring the moment is ‘perfect,’ I’m practising something profound. I’m saying, “I trust our friendship enough to be spontaneous.” I’m accepting that maybe they won’t answer, and that’s okay too. I’m choosing connection over perfection and presence over planning.
I’m discovering that letting go isn’t about becoming passive or careless. It’s about finding that delicate balance between intention and surrender.
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But letting go isn’t easy – believe me, I know. Those fears creep in: What if I’m bothering them? What if it’s not the right time? What if, what if, what if… These fears run deeper than just phone calls. They touch on our fundamental needs for security, acceptance, and control. Yet what I’m learning, slowly but surely, is that there’s immense freedom in releasing our grip on these fears.
This journey has taught me to start small. Before spontaneous calls, it was learning to leave a day unplanned, or trying a new route without GPS, or sending an unedited message. Each small act of letting go builds confidence in our ability to handle uncertainty. It’s like building a muscle – the muscle of trust, both in ourselves and in life itself.
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Of course, this journey looks different for everyone. Maybe for you, it’s not about phone calls. Maybe it’s about leaving space in your calendar for spontaneity, or allowing yourself to write without editing, or simply sitting with uncomfortable emotions instead of trying to fix them immediately. The form doesn’t matter as much as the intention behind it – the intention to loosen our grip on control and create space for life to surprise us.
Control is a heavy burden to carry. There’s a lightness that comes with letting go, with trusting that maybe, just maybe, things don’t always need to be perfectly planned to be perfectly wonderful.
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As I write this, I’m reminded of something a friend once told me: “Control is a heavy burden to carry.” And she was right. There’s a lightness that comes with letting go, with trusting that maybe, just maybe, things don’t always need to be perfectly planned to be perfectly wonderful.
So here’s my invitation to you: What small act of letting go could you experiment with today? Maybe it’s making an unplanned call to someone you care about. Maybe it’s leaving your weekend schedule open to possibility. Whatever it is, know that each small step toward releasing control is a step toward greater freedom and authenticity.
As for me, if you get an unexpected call one morning, know that it’s just my heart practising what it preaches about the art of letting go. And whether you answer or not, that’s perfectly okay, too. After all, that’s what letting go is all about.
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If you’re on your own journey of letting go right now, know that you’re not alone. These processes take time, and there’s no perfect way through them. Whether you’re taking your first steps or deep in the middle of it, I hope these words have offered some comfort or recognition. Your journey is your own, but we’re all learning to loosen our grip together. 🌿
